Negotiation Checklist Sharing with someone... especially for the first time is very uncertain and a LOT scary. There are so many questions, and it does take time to get to know the likes/dislikes, and reactions of your partner. Communication is SO important!!! Some people feel uncomfortable talking about these things... others are just not sure 'what' to ask or tell. The following checklist was submitted by MasterKnots. It is a comprehensive list of things your partner should know BEFORE playing. Please let us know what you think and if you have any additions for the list. Thanks MK!!!! *tight hugs* it's GREAT! Please.... ALWAYS follow smart safety rules... if you need help deciding or KNOWING what is safe... come visit us in #Bondage&Discipline and chat. You/re important to us! To receive a text copy of this checklist, email your request to us OR just print this page. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- This NEGOTIATION CHECKLIST is to be used by a submissive and dominant before a scene. This form is not all encompassing, and should not replace communication between all members involved. Place any comments or restrictions next the item it concerns. Who will participate? Who may watch? Who may not watch? Are photos or videos allowed? Will the submissive obey orders promptly? Will the submissive resist? May the dominant overpower the submissive? May the submissive resist verbally? Physically? What are the safe words for Stop? Slow down? Go ahead? If the sub is gagged? Will the submissive wear a collar? How shall the dominant be addressed? Where shall the scene take place? Times? If an unintentional incident should take place, does everyone agree to discuss the matter without blame? Does the submissive have any medical problems? Does the submissive wear or use any items that may interfere with play, such as contacts or braces? Does the submissive have any implants (i.e. breast implants)? Is the submissive taking any medication? Is the submissive allergic to anything? Does the submissive have any phobias or fears that may interfere with play? Does the dominate have any medical conditions that could endanger the sub (i.e., prone to seizures while a sub is restrained?) Will the submissive use any safety measures such as a safe call? Does any participant have a sexually transmitted disease? What type of bondage do the submissive and dominant agree to? Hands behind the back Hands in front Elbows Ankles Knees Hands to ankles Tied to bed Tied to bondage equipment Suspension Mummification Other Should the bondage be? Escapable Inescapable Tight Loose Other What type of equipment do the dominate and submissive agree to use? Saint Andrews Cross Spanking Bench Bondage Horse Stocks/Pillory Spreader Bars Chairs Bed Other What types of gear to the dominate and submissive agree to? Cuffs Types? Ropes Chains Gags Types? Blindfolds Hoods Pony Gear Arm Binders Strap Other What levels of pain does the submissive and dominate accept? ***WARNING pain levels tend to be subjective*** None Low Medium High What types of toys do the submissive and dominate agree to? Spanking Hand Paddle Crops Doggin' Bats (Slappers) Floggers Cat-o-nines Whips (single tail) Canes Straps and belts Nipple clamps Genital clamps Other clamps Other What areas may be subjected to pain? Butt Upper thighs Lower thighs Bottom of feet Genitals Breasts Upper back (not to include the spine) Lower back (not safe play) Stomach (not safe for anything but light whipping) Face (not safe play) Other What types of marks are acceptable? None Redness only Bruises Welts Broken skin Abrasions Cutting Branding Other Areas Marks are acceptable None None visible in a bikini None visible in shorts and a short sleeve shirt None visible in pants and a short sleeve shirt None visible in pants and a long sleeve shirt Any Types of sex acceptable None Hands to breasts Hands to genitals Fellatio (Blow jobs) Cunnilingus (Eating out) Intercourse Anal Dildos Vibrators vaginal anal Fisting vaginal anal Other Will protection be used? What type? What types of erotic humiliation do the submissive and dominant agree to? Water play Verbal abuse Exhibitionism Private Public Waxing Ice Cubes What type of play do the submissive and dominant agree to? Knife For dramatic effect only Knife/scalpel for cutting Electrical TENS Violet Wand Medical scenes Fire Other What is the experience level of the submissive? What is the experience level of the dominant? ***WARNING - years of experience do not mean the submissive or dominant is competent. *** Other concerns Other restrictions Other notes 1999, 2000, 2001 #Bondage&Discipline - BDfriends