BDSM Questionnaire Questionnaire courtesy of The Wizdomme Pages Sharing with someone... especially for the first time is very uncertain and a LOT scary. There are so many questions, and it does take time to get to know the likes/dislikes, and reactions of your partner. Communication is SO important!!! Some people feel uncomfortable talking about these things... others are just not sure 'what' to ask or tell. Please.... ALWAYS follow smart safety rules... if you need help deciding or KNOWING what is safe... come visit us in #Bondage&Discipline and chat. You/re important to us! -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Part One: General Questions and Information A. What is your level of experience? 1. Very experienced 2. Experienced 3. Limited experience 4. Beginner B. How long have you known of your interests? 1. As long as I can remember 2. 5 years or more 3. 1 to 4 years 4. Less than 1 year C. What is your sexual orientation? 1. Heterosexual exclusively 2. Bisexual 3. Homosexual 4. BiCurious D. What kind of relationship do you prefer? 1. Long term, live in 2. Offline, meeting often 3. Offline, meeting occasionally 4. Online only 5. Not sure yet E. Main interest 1. Sensual and physical 2. Psychosexual and mental 3. Both equally F. Are you... (rate each from 1 to 10) ______ Sadistic ______ Masochistic ______ Dominant ______ Submissive G. Your level of interest in bondage: 1. Total helplessness 2. Light bondage 3. Not my favorite thing 4. Outside my limits 5. Never tried it H. Pain (what you are, or what you're looking for) 1. Pain slut 2. Whipping, caning, paddling 3. Light paddling, sensual whipping, no marks 4. Punishment only when necessary 5. Interested, but never tried it 6. WAY beyond limits I. What do you believe the purpose of pain in a session is? 1. Pain is a reward 2. Pain is a punishment 3. For training or correction only 4. Whatever pleases my partner 5. Not sure J. Sex in a scene, for me is... 1. An absolute must 2. Expected, unless punishment is taking place 3. An enhancement 4. Not necessary or expected 5. Out of the question K. Which settings are you comfortable playing in? 1. Public play 2. Scene parties 3. Intimate groups of 1 to 3 other couples 4. Three way play 5. One on one L. Who can know of your activities? 1. No one 2. A very few trusted friends 3. Other scene people 4. Doesn't matter who knows Part Two: Interests, Preferences, and Limits M. Role Playing: Below are listed several examples of roles to be played by either Dom/me or sub. Please list those which you are interested in, and those you'd like to see your partner play. Amazon Baby Barbarian Bitch-Goddess Boss Burglar Child Clergy Cowboy Cowgirl Daddy Doctor Evil Priest Evil Priestess Femme Fatale French Maid God Goddess Hooker Indian Inquisitor Interrogator Hero Kidnap Victim Knight LeatherMan Master Mentor Mistress Mommy Nun Nurse Rapist Role Reversal Pet Pimp Pirate Policeman Ponygirl Ponyboy POW Prince Princess Principal Puppy Savage Secretary Sex Object Sissy Slave Slave Owner Slut Student Suspect Teacher Teen Torturer Victim Warrior Wild Beast Roles I would like to play: __________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________ Roles I would like my partner to play: __________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________ N. List any specific fetishes you have (such as foot worship, body types): __________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________ O. List any medical, physical or emotional concerns (past breaks, sprains, chronic conditions or phobias): __________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________ P. List your limits here: __________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________ Q. List your concerns about the depth and exclusivity of a relationship: __________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________ R. List your preferred method of birth control and avoidance of STD's: __________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________ S. Below are listed several D/s activities. Please rate each of these from 1 to 6: 1 = YES!!! 2 = Mmmm, I like this 3 = Doesn't excite me, but I'll do it for you 4 = Absolutely not!! 5 = Intriguing, but scary 6 = Embarrassed to admit I want this 1 _____ Spanking, by Hand 2 _____ Leather Paddle 3 _____ Wooden Paddle 4 _____ Belt or Strap 5 _____ Switch 6 _____ Deerskin Cat o' Nine 7 _____ Leather Cat o' Nine 8 _____ Braided Cat o' Nine 9 _____ Knotted Whip 10 _____ Rubber Whip 11 _____ Single Lash 12 _____ Cane 13 _____ Fiberglass/Plastic Rod 14 _____ Riding Crop 15 _____ Furlined Paddle 16 _____ Mental Bondage 17 _____ Silk Scarves 18 _____ Nylon Rope 19 _____ Cotton Rope 20 _____ Chains 21 _____ Leather Bonds 22 _____ Spandex Bonds 23 _____ Plastic Wrap 24 _____ Body Bags 25 _____ Steel Shackles 26 _____ Arm Sleeves 27 _____ Straight Jackets 28 _____ Breast Bondage 29 _____ Genital Bondage Embarrassment 30 _____ Gags 31 _____ Leather Cuffs 32 _____ Hand/Ankle Cuffs 33 _____ Spreader Bars 34 _____ Ceiling/Wall Hooks 35 _____ Cages 36 _____ Slings/Swings 37 _____ Stocks 38 _____ Crosses 39 _____ Pillory 40 _____ Suspension, on Toes 41 _____ Suspension, Full 42 _____ Outdoor Setting 43 _____ Indoor Setting 44 _____ Public Setting 45 _____ Semi-public Setting 46 _____ Private Setting 47 _____ 1 to 3 Hours 48 _____ 3 to 6 Hours 49 _____ Overnight Duration 50 _____ Blindfolds 51 _____ Hoods 52 _____ Headphones/Earplugs 53 _____ Tickling 54 _____ Feathers/Fur 55 _____ Sexual Teasing 56 _____ Sexual Denial 57 _____ Chastity Belt 58 _____ Pinching 59 _____ Hair Pulling 60 _____ Nipple Clamps/Clips 61 _____ Clothespins 62 _____ Genital Torture 63 _____ Weights 64 _____ Cock Rings 65 _____ Ball Stretchers 66 _____ Water Torture 67 _____ Ice 68 _____ Oils, Lotions, Spices 69 _____ Hot Wax 70 _____ Fire and Ice 71 _____ Needles 72 _____ Cutting 73 _____ Abrasions 74 _____ Electric Torture 75 _____ Digital Sex 76 _____ Directed Masturbation 77 _____ Vaginal Sex 78 _____ Oral Sex 79 _____ Vibrators/Dildoes 80 _____ Strap-ons 81 _____ Anal Sex 82 _____ Anal Plugs 83 _____ Multiple Penetrations 84 _____ Anilingus 85 _____ Vaginal fisting 86 _____ Anal Fisting 87 _____ Fantasy Rape 88 _____ Directed Bisexuality 89 _____ Threesomes 90 _____ Groups 91 _____ Foot Kissing 92 _____ Kneeling 93 _____ Crawling 94 _____ Lead on Leash 95 _____ Dirty Words 96 _____ Verbal Abuse 97 _____ Public 98 _____ Face Slapping 99 _____ Cross Dressing 100 _____ Secret Sex in Public 101 _____ Public Display 102 _____ Public Sex 103 _____ Public Whipping 104 _____ Infantilism 105 _____ Golden Showers 106 _____ Enemas 107 _____ Innocent Dress 108 _____ Slutty Dress 109 _____ Prim and Proper 110 _____ Ultra-Feminine 111 _____ French Maid 112 _____ Child/Baby Roles 113 _____ Slave 114 _____ Macho 115 _____ Biker 116 _____ Leathers 117 _____ Spandex 118 _____ Rubber/Latex 119 _____ Masks/Hoods 120 _____ Costumes 121 _____ Lingerie 122 _____ Garters/Stockings 123 _____ Corsets/Cinches 124 _____ Boots 125 _____ High Heels 126 _____ Tattooing 127 _____ Body Piercing 128 _____ Branding 129 _____ Maid Service 130 _____ Shaving 131 _____ Humiliation 132 _____ Foot Worship 133 _____ Exhibitionism 134 _____ Voyeurism T. Listed below are 6 parts of the body and 3 categories. Using the following letter codes, rate each as what is acceptable to you: 1. N = Never L = Light ? = Unsure 2. T = Thuddy M = Medium 3. S = Stingy H = Heavy Part of Body Bondage Corporal Torture Back/Shoulders _____ _____ _____ Bottom/Thighs _____ _____ _____ Breasts/Chest _____ _____ _____ Genitals _____ _____ _____ Feet/Ankles _____ _____ _____ Wrists _____ _____ _____ * ~ * ~ * ~ * ~ * ~ * ~ * ~ * ~ * ~ * ~ * ~ * ~ * Copyright ©1997,1998 wizdomme@neonpages.com 1999, 2000, 2001 #Bondage&Discipline - BDfriends